Who’s Into Who, and Who’s Not?

“She’s just not into you, Rafael,” my buddy Ed said to me for the 10th time.
I didn’t want to believe.
I didn’t believe it.
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To Pay or not to Pay: Isn’t That the Question?

Okay guys.

Here’s the skinny: the economy sucks, the job market sucks, the prices of gas, milk, and orange juice suck.
And now you think you’re supposed to foot the bill for taking Lady Godiva out on a date?
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No surprise, given the popularity of shows like Dancing with the Stars and So You Think You Can Dance, but dancing has become one of the hottest hobbies and sports – yes, sports – in the world today!!

Would you believe that a non-profit organization called USA DANCE is an affiliate member of the United States Olympic Committee (USOC) and is recognized by both the USOC and the International DanceSport Federation (IDSF) as the National Governing Body of DanceSport in the United States? (DanceSport is the competitive version of ballroom dancing.)

What does this have to do with you?

My dating friend, whether lady or gent, you need to get your booty out there on that dance floor and kick up those heels, because dancing is where it’s at for today’s dynamic duos.

The benefits of dancing are amazing both for you as an individual as well as in your coupling efforts.

Let’s look at a few of them:

General Benefits

First, ballroom dancing gives you an enhanced appreciation of music and its rhythms. It will help your sense of balance, and promote more fluid movement in your walking and running.

You’ll make new types of relationships with others. Dancing with a partner in harmony gives you a more open, understanding, responsive, and supportive relationship both with your partner as well as with others. Overall, your outlook on life will become more positive.

Physical Benefits

Dancing is a great body conditioner, even if you can only manage to do it once a week. But if you can dance two or three times a week, you’ll increase your stamina, you’re your heart stronger, strengthen your legs, and generally tone your body. And as mentioned above, you’ll become more balanced, fluid, and flexible.

Mental Benefits

Mentally, dancing serves as a wonderful stress relief. A pressure-cooker day melts away when the evening eases you into the arms of your dance partner. Sleep that night is sound and sweet.

Becoming a competent dancer also provides an excellent learning experience in discipline, goal setting, planning, achievement, assuredness, self-confidence and pride in your abilities. These favorable attributes transfer into all other areas of your life as well. The payoff can be significant!

A third benefit involves that old saying “use it or lose it.”

Learning and remembering the many steps and movements required of the various dances provide a significant mental challenge and a constant stimulant to the brain. Surely this is why avid dancers usually remain mentally alert, regardless of age.

Social Benefits

A good dancer is a definite plus to social occasions — especially you men. If a man takes the time to become a skilled and confident, but not overly forceful leader, his presence is appreciated by every lady in the room. A good dancer does not need to be handsome to be popular. Similarly, a lady who is a good dancer radiates grace and charm, regardless of whether she is a physical beauty.

In both your business and professional life, you’ll be amazed at how your ability to dance affects your popularity and attractiveness to people of both sexes. And these days, with dancing as popular as it is, it is almost essential to be able to dance well in order to truly function at many social occasions.

When adults become involved with ballroom dancing they meet many new people who have a similar interest and develop lasting friendships with many of them. Many dancers say that ballroom dancing adds an entirely new and very beneficial dimension to their life.

In sum? Learn to dance: it is a valuable skill that will enhance your life in every way.

In part 1 of this series, we discussed the basics of blogging:

• what a blog is,
• how to set one up, and
• the ways of approaching content.

In this article we’ll talk about what to write about and how to meet people through your blog.

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Phone calls, text messages, emails, instant messages – these are our high-tech modes of staying in touch with friends and family and pursuing that coveted “other.” I am going to suggest another way to stay in touch and make new friends: blogging.
That’s right, blogging.

First, what is a blog?
The word blog comes from the combination of the terms web and log: weblog, which was shortened to blog.

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How to succeed without offending!

I had a letter from this guy a few weeks back saying that things in the initial stages with a new babe went great, but that now he wanted to move things up a notch or two to enter the (gasp!!) relationship phase!

Let’s be honest. Most of my work and writing has been on the “woo ‘em and win ‘em” ground floor level. In fact, I have so much fun playing this game that I don’t care if I ever make it to the 2nd floor.

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Listen up, guys.
Girls want bad boys.
That’s right.They want bad boys and they want them baaaaad.

I have this one lady friend who manages to get all kinds of guys collapsing at her feet, and I’m talking some really nice gents.
These are the kind of guys who wine her, dine her, and shower her with flowers, perfume and gifts.
But does she want these “good guys?”
No way, Jose.
She wants them down, dirty and bad.
And she’s not alone.

Why, you ask?
What’s a nice looking woman like this doing in a zone like that?
I have a few theories which I’ll pass on to you below:

1. Whether they admit it or not, women love excitement!
   They love the ongoing surprise element, wondering when he’s going to call, if he’s going to ask her out, will he be drunk or stoned when she sees him.
2. Women love the raw, hunky, masculinity associated with the proverbial bad boy.
   Not that all bad boys fit this physical mold, but the dirtier, the messier the hair, and the grubbier the clothes, the faster she’ll come running.
3. Traveling to the edge, and maybe even over: the good girl relishes the pure thrill of traveling to the edge with her bad boy. Not that she’ll participate in his hard drinking, wild riding, heavy smoking practices, but boy does she like to go along for the wild ride!
4. Her nurturing side revs into overdrive.
   Many women ascribe to the “fix-it” style of relationship, and what better to fix than a bad boy?

Aha – want to be a bad boy?
Okay, here are a few things you can do to take on that persona

• Dress the part: this is no time for dockers and starched shirts. We’re talking jeans and t-shirts – the grubbier the better.
• Hygiene: this is a tough one because you certainly don’t want to smell like the town dump, but a little BO is an unbelievable aphrodisiac.Also, get a little grease under those fingernails, like you’ve spent the day in the garage crawling around car engines.
• Getting the voice and lingo down: Spend an evening or two in a biker bar.
  Listen to how the bad boy bikers talk.Copy them.
• Take up smoking: this may be a tough one, but you can always just swish the smoke around in your mouth rather than inhale.
• Transportation: speaking of bikers, get your own bike, or if that’s not an option, find yourself a souped up car with a LOUD muffler.
• Drink beer with whisky chasers: need I say more?
• Music: hard core, acid rock, and turn it up loud!!!
• Be erratic: be unreliable as hell in calling her.
  Tell her you’ll call at a certain time, and then don’t call.
  Call her in the middle of the night.
  Tell her you want to see her and then never follow up.Get her on a wild goose chase – AFTER YOU!!!!

So, fellas, there you are, my advice on how to become a bad boy and have the girls flocking to your door.

I’ve Got a Secret: And It’s Not Deodorant

How your smell can help you !

Every article you read about attracting women, what women want, being a successful dater, and so on will tell you that being cleaned, spit and polished, and well-groomed are unequivocal essentials to success.

Guess what guys, I’m going to tell you that a little body odor goes a long way.
That’s right – BO, as in pits, sweat, grease and grime.

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Some ways to save your ….

Okay guys, you know the type.
She starts out really cool, confident, even detached: traits which, of course, draw us even cooler, more confident, and detached to the max guys like flies.
Then, little by little, things change.
Instead of casual conversations left comfortably open-ended, she starts to try and nail you down for when your next phone chat is going to be, or the next time you’re going to get together.

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What is it that women find attractive in a man!

by Rafael Corney, dating coach

It’s important to be nice.
It’s important to be funny.
It’s important to be intelligent.
And, it’s important to be cocky.

That’s right, gents, cocky!

You know the type.
What it’s not is arrogant. It’s an overall presence –

• a half-smile,
• a lift in the walk,
• a head held high,

with a confidence that oozes from every pore.

I’ll tell ya, guys, cockiness is like flypaper.

Irresistible.
Good girls, bad girls, and everything in between – doesn’t matter.
When you’ve got the cocky-thing down pat,
you’ll have too many dates instead of too few.

So, you ask me, how do I get this cocky thing working for me?

Ahhh, never thought you’d ask.

Follow this advice and your cocky days are here!

1. Project an overall fun and easy-going attitude.
   The main characteristic in being cocky is your overall physical
   aura and body language.
   But be careful not to slip down the hill into the realm of
   (boo-hiss) arrogance.






2. When you meet a woman, be nice enough,
   but make it clear in your pleasant, confident way that your
   business takes priority over her presence.
   Example:
   if you are taking a jog through the park and
   some super babe winks at you and says hello,
   nod back with your cocky-little smile and
   keep running.
   You better believe you’ll find the babe
   same time same station tomorrow.





3. When talking to a woman,
   listen thoughtfully to what she says, but for God’s sake,
   don’t fawn over her every word.
   In fact, disagree with her!
   Note I said disagree as opposed to argue.
   Argue goes along with arrogance while disagree is intriguing and
   something she is not used to.




4. Tease and joke around.
   Not only is teasing fun, it is also charged with nuance and
   questions as to the real meaning of the conversation.
   You’ll keep her on her toes, wondering “Does he or doesn’t he.”

There you go, gents.
My advice for becoming that cocky,
confident guy that woman can’t resist.